Can you have sex when you're pregnant? - Get safe advice here

For many, the question is quite natural: Can you have sex when pregnant? In an uncomplicated pregnancy, sex is generally often possible, but the most important thing is to listen to your body and to take seriously any changes that may occur along the way. Desire, comfort, and boundaries can fluctuate throughout pregnancy, and that is normal.

If your pregnancy is proceeding normally, intercourse will typically not harm either you or the baby. The baby is protected in the womb, and the body is designed to accommodate both pregnancy and intimacy.

However, it is important to follow the recommendations you receive from your midwife or doctor, especially if you have previously had complications.

Contact healthcare professionals if you experience or have been advised about conditions such as:

• bleeding, fluid leakage, or severe pain
• contractions that feel regular, or suspicion of premature birth
• placental issues or other pregnancy complications (that you have been informed about)

Here, it's not about being “cautious just in case,” but about getting a specific assessment of your particular situation.

Some pregnant women receive specific advice to avoid intercourse for a period. This could be, for example, due to symptoms that need investigation, or if you have signs of irritation that make sex uncomfortable. If something feels wrong, that is reason enough to pause and talk to your midwife.

There are also situations where other forms of intimacy may feel safer than penetration, without losing closeness.

It can for some, and that doesn't mean there's "something wrong with you." During pregnancy, mucous membranes can be more sensitive, and you may more easily become sore or dry, or experience pressure in the pelvis.

• Slow down and take breaks along the way
• Try positions where you can control depth and tempo, and where there is no pressure on your stomach
• Stop at pain (not just afterwards) and switch to something that feels good

If pain continues, or if you experience bleeding or persistent cramps, it is wise to have it assessed.

Desire can fluctuate greatly during pregnancy. Some experience increased desire, others less, and many find that desire changes from trimester to trimester. Fatigue, nausea, body changes, and worries can be overwhelming and affect everything from self-image to energy levels.

A good rule of thumb is to talk about it early and concretely: What do you feel like right now, and what don't you feel like? Intimacy can also be kisses, massage, skin-on-skin contact, or closeness without the expectation of intercourse.

The goal is comfort, free breathing, and as little pressure as possible on the abdomen and pelvis. Many prefer positions where you can lie on your side, or where you can control the movement yourself. Using pillows for support can also help.

If you experience Braxton Hicks contractions or a dull ache after orgasm, this can be normal and short-lived for some, but with strong or persistent symptoms, you should react and seek advice.

If you have to "endure," it's a sign to stop, adjust, or choose another form of intimacy. Sex during pregnancy should not be a performance - it should feel safe.

If discomfort is related to support and body comfort, small adjustments can make a difference in everyday life and thus also for the energy available for intimacy. Some pregnant women benefit from a support belt that relieves the abdomen and lower back, such as the Maternity Support Belt.

If you experience soreness and sensitivity in the genital area, gentle intimate hygiene can also feel pleasant, such as the Intimate Care Wash Bottle.

And if you generally want a complete overview of solutions for pregnancy, you can see the Pregnancy category.